One of the most common questions I encounter when dealing with teens and sex involves how the different positions for sex work, or which ones are the "best" for beginners.
The truth is, there's no specific position that works best for everyone. You simply need to experiment with the different positions to see which one(s) works best for you and your partner.
You can use these instructional pages to see how to perform the basic sex positions (with additional positions coming soon). Try them all and see how they work for you and your partner. Only then will you know which one is "best." Of course, you may decide that they all work and wish to include them in your sexual repertoire each time you have sex. Or, mix and match!
* The Missionary
* The 69 (Mutual Oral Sex)
* The Doggy
* The Cowgirl (Girl on Top)
* The Reverse Cowgirl
The Missionary Position
HOW TO DO IT:
The girl lies on her back, with her legs spread far enough apart for her partner to get in between them.
The guy enters her, supporting his weight on his knees/thighs and hands (or elbows), and uses thrusts of his pelvis to move his cock in and out of her pussy. The guy could also rest his weight on the girl, but that tends to limit her ability to help control the thrusts.
The Missionary Positon for sex
There are a variety of things the girl can do with her body during this. She can just lay there with her legs outstretched (boring), but she can also bend her legs at the knees, or pull her legs back as close to her head as she can (either bending her legs or not). She can also wrap her legs around the guy. The further she pulls her legs back, the deeper the penis can go into the vagina.
If the girl has control of her Kegels (PC muscles) , and can learn to flex them in time with the guy’s thrusts, the guy can get off in a hurry. She can let her hands wander around various parts of his body – she can play with his nipples if he’s into that, or grab his waist and help control the guy’s thrusting.
One variant of this position has the girl keeping her legs closed, and the guy positioning his legs on the outside of hers. He enters her in the same manner. This causes the vagina to be tighter around the guy’s penis.
This position is very easy to do, and allows for deep penetration (this can be bad, too, for the girl, esp. if the guy has a long penis).
The position allows for greater face-to-face contact – the two participants can see each other’s facial expressions, etc. It is very easy to kiss each other.
Because of the in and out nature of the thrusts, there is generally little direct stimulation of the clit, which many girls need to achieve orgasm. This can be alleviated by having the guy thrust in and grind onto the girl’s pubic area a little bit! The girl can match or reciprocate the grinding to help things progress as well.
Since the guy is the one supporting all of his weight (unless he is resting on top of her), he can tire easily.
It is possible to do anal in this position, though it is not recommended for first-time anal due to the angle at which the penis will be entering the anus, and the likelihood of it slipping out (esp. with shorter penises).
The 69 Position
HOW TO DO IT:
One person lies down. The other person will turn into a position with their feet toward the other person’s head, and their head toward the first person’s feet, and get into a position on top of the first person, such that their face is directly over the naughty bits of the person lying down. From that point, the two people perform oral sex upon each other. Typically, the person on top is on his/her knees and elbows, though some do it with the person on top literally resting on top of the bottom person.
The 69 position for sex
When 69 involves a guy and a girl, generally, the guy is on the bottom. This allows the girl to go down on the guy, and remain in control of how deep she takes the guy’s cock into her mouth. If the guy is on top, it is harder for him to concentrate on how far into her mouth he’s pushing his cock if he’s the one doing the movement. This can be dangerous because if he pushes too far into the back of her throat, there can be negative consequences! Of course, it is possible for the girl to be responsible for all of the movement required for the oral sex even if the guy is on top, though it is a little harder to do than if she were on top. Allowing the guy to cum in your mouth in this position allows for the cum to go right down the hatch as well!
It is possible for the two partners to insert their fingers into the orifices of the other (vaginal or anal) in this position, though it is much easier for the one on the bottom to do so than for the one on top. One of my favorite things to do when someone is on top of me is to wrap my arms under and around their legs to play with their asshole while I am performing oral on them. This can be done by the person on top as well, but it is just a little harder to do.
One variant for this is for the person on top (the girl, usually) can lift herself up and basically assume a position of sitting on the bottom’s face.
Another variant is for the two people to be lying on their sides, with one leg raised, bent at the knee, and foot on the bed (or w/e). This will allow for easier access by both people. You can prevent the neck from tiring by resting your head on the other person’s thigh.
Orgasm contests – see who can make the other one cum first!
Doesn’t work well for couples who are not of reasonably similar heights.
For some people, having to focus on pleasing the other prevents them from enjoying the attention they are getting! It is practical, however, for one person to bring the other one off, and then allow the roles to reverse.
If you’re into eating ass (rimming, etc.), the person on top (guy or girl) can assume the “sitting on the face” position and the bottom can lavish attention upon the top’s anal region.
The bottom can make things easier on their neck if they find a small pillow or something to put under their head to help hold their head up a little while performing oral. This will make it easier on the neck muscles.
The Doggy Position
HOW TO DO IT:
The woman assumes a position on her hands and knees, with her ass facing the guy. The guy gets behind the woman, on his knees, and inserts his penis into her vagina (or asshole if they’re doing anal). One or both partners can provide the thrusts necessary to make this position work.
Doggy position for sex
The guy has a very nice view of the girl’s ass, and this provides a significant stimulation for the guy (since guys are largely visually oriented towards sex).
The guy can reach around and either play with the girl’s boobs or masturbate her clit while he’s thrusting. He can also play with her asshole, and even insert fingers or a dildo into her ass if she’s willing to let him do it. Of course, she can also masturbate herself while doing it doggy style!
This position can be very intense because it will allow both partners to thrust as hard as they want to, assuming they’ve got their timing worked out. The guy can grab the girl’s shoulders and push deep into her with each thrust. If the girl knows how to control her Kegels (PC Muscles), and can synchronize those with her thrusts, it can be a powerful orgasm for the guy.
The movement of the guy’s penis typically causes it to brush against the front wall of the girl’s vagina, thereby stimulating her G-spot. This, in combination with masturbation of her clit (by him or her) can lead to great orgasms on her part as well.
There are several variants of this position – standing, with the female leaning against a wall; sitting, with the girl leaning back onto the guy’s penis; spooning, where the two partners are lying down and the guy is entering her from behind; and a position where the girl is lying flat on her stomach, with the guy penetrating her from above (this one works best with anal).
Visually intense for the guy. Good G-Spot stimulation for the girl!
Both partners can work on making sex as intense as they can stand it, since the position allows for the maximum amount of movement by both of them.
Ease of movement from vaginal to anal intercourse, if desired.
May be tiring for the girl after a period of time.
Some may not like the relative lack of intimacy in that the two partners can’t see each other’s facial expressions, kiss, etc.
This is *the* recommended position for first-time anal sex as far as I’m concerned. The ease of movement, combined with the fact that the girl can be in complete control of the speed, the depth, and just about all other aspects of the penetration makes it ideal for the first time anal experience. Additionally, the guy has a good visual to assist him with inserting his cock into her ass.
Doing doggy from a standing position makes for an excellent quickie just about anywhere.
The Cowgirl (Girl on Top) Position
HOW TO DO IT:
The guy lies on his back, legs together.
The girl straddles him and inserts the penis into her vagina, and moves up and down or back-and-forth to cause the in-and-out motion. She rests on her knees/shins, and can lean down and rest her hands next to the guy’s chest, face, etc. It is also possible for her to extend her legs outward, which will make up-and-down movements harder to perform.
Cowgirl position for sex
The guy can play with her chest with his hands, rub them over her body, and/or grab a hold of her waist to help control the movements/thrusts. He can help with the sex by pelvic thrusts or rocking his hips back and forth. The girl can sit up and play with her boobs for the guy if desired.
If the girl has learned to control her Kegels (PC muscles), then she can add this into the process to help bring the guy off.
Gives the girl better control of the stimulation on her clit, since it is possible for her to push against the guy’s pelvic area. Girls typically get off more frequently in this position than the standard Missionary position.
The position allows for greater face-to-face contact – the two participants can see each other’s facial expressions, etc. It is very easy to kiss each other, and most girls *really* enjoy having their boobs played with (fondle her boobs, lightly pinch her nipples, suck/lick/bite them, etc. - I *love* having my nipple ring played with in this position!)
Some girls may experience cramps in the legs in some cases (esp. if their legs are not as toned as they could be).
No others to speak of, though the guy’s inability to thrust as intensely as he might want may be considered less-than desirable.
It is possible to do anal in this position, though it is not recommended for first-time anal due to the angle at which the penis will be entering the asshole, and the likelihood of it slipping out (esp. with shorter penises).
One variant of this position involves the guy actually assuming a sitting position, and the girl sitting on his penis in the same manner outlined above. This allows for a very intimate, face-to-face, “both sets of hands around each other” embrace that can heighten the sensuality of it. Try sitting there for as long as you can endure it after penetration, without moving – see how long you can make out before you absolutely have to start having sex.
The Reverse Cowgirl Position
HOW TO DO IT:
The guy lies on his back, with his legs generally together.
The girl sits on the guy, facing his feet, and inserts his penis into her vagina. The girl can either sit on her knees and shins, or can extend her feet out toward his feet. Since for most guys it is difficult to bend the penis straight out, the most common position for the girl is with her feet extended out or to the side. If the guy wants to spread his legs a little, the girl can accommodate him by moving her legs further apart as well.
The girl leans back and supports her weight on her hands, placed next to the guy’s chest, face, etc. The guy initiates the “in-and-out” through pelvic thrusts, which the girl can move against with similar pelvic thrusts (opposing those of the guy, of course). The girl basically is in control of the angle, depth, etc. the entire time.
Reverse cowgirl position for sex
Some girls require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, so it may be necessary (desirable) for the girl to masturbate herself using one hand, maintaining balance with the other. Alternatively, the girl can reach down and play with the guy’s balls/penis.
The guy can either hold on to the girl’s waist (or her ass even) to help control the thrusting, or can reach around to the girl’s chest and play with her boobs.
For girls who are capable of G-Spot stimulation, this position affords *terrific* stimulation potential because the position forces the guy’s penis against the front wall of the vagina where the G-spot is located. The action of the guy’s cock massaging the G-Spot can result in an intensely pleasurable feeling.
The sensitive underside of the guy’s cock head rubs against the inside of the vagina, resulting in very intense pleasure for the guy as well.
If you have long hair, guys that love long hair will enjoy the girl’s hair hanging down in their faces.
There’s no face-to-face contact, which for some is less intimate.
The position is a little difficult to master at first (but well worth the effort once you do! lol)
This position is *great* for anal sex as well. You can achieve deeper penetration with this position than just about any other. I don’t recommend it for first time anal, though, due to the incredible depth – generally not good for first-timers. It is easy to masturbate using a vibrator (including vaginal penetration) in this position as well while being anally penetrated. (And for those guys with GFs that won’t allow anal, this is a great position to fantasize about doing her in the ass!)
An alternative positioning has the girl resting on her knees/shins, and simply moving up and down on the guy’s penis.
Another variant involves the girl leaning toward the guy’s feet and moving up and down. Some guys might have a hard time with this if their penis achieves a hard, upright erection. In this position, the guy can also play with the girl’s asshole if desired (and she lets him!).
very informative keep it up, but the initial picture of basic position is wrong. basic position is the Missionary position. cow girl postion is also called St Jhon's Riding... good piece of work keep it up dude.